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Realizing that "I am More Than a (Someday) Wife"

Back near Valentine's Day, I shared an article to my personal Facebook profile from Tirzah Magazine titled "You are More Than a (Someday) Wife". (I highly recommend everyone read this article if you are searching for your worth in someone else.) This article put all the words that I was too scared to accept out in the open for me.


For the longest time, I thought that my only calling in life was to become a wife and a mom. I thought that was all I was supposed to amount to. I had no problem with other women going out and "making something of themselves" or pursuing something other than being a housewife or a mom.


Don't get me wrong - being a stay at home mom is a magnificent calling and I have a great amount of respect for the women that pursue that. However, it doesn't really make sense to pursue a career as a stay at home mom when there's no kids in sight, much less a father for those kids.


A part of the article that stood out to me was when the writer, Yelena Bosovik writes "God gave Adam an assignment before He gave him a wife. Too many of us are seeking the person before we seek our purpose, before we seek Jesus, and before we ask Him what He wants from this one life we've been given."



God has given you an assignment. I encourage you to ask God today what assignment He has for your life, what assignment He has for your year, your month, your day. We were not put on this earth to just live and die. There is a reason He made us.


It took me a while to realize that I am more than a (someday) wife because I thought that was all I was meant for. But boy did God show me. There's this funny thing that happened. One day I just gave it all up. I said "I'm done." I'm done trying to orchestrate my future, I give it to you God. That was the BEST decision I have ever made in my entire life. THAT was the day things started to change.


Opportunities I never could have dreamed of started falling into my lap. Connections with people I never thought I would know popped up. I was surprising even myself with the level that I was living up to.

Ask yourself this: what could happen if I live up to what God has for me?



When I stopped looking for the person and started looking for the purpose, my life changed forever. I no longer base my purpose on a person. My significance does not lie in who I am dating or when I get married or how cute or well dressed my future children are. My significance lies in Christ and His purpose for me. Where does your significance lie?